What does it mean when a guy says he 'sorta' likes a girl? either you like someone or you don't, right?

-Someone

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Response from GS:

Someone,
Okay, first off, i must apologize for my long time disappearance.  sorry to those of you who read our updates and look for our coooky, crazy, but sometimes cool advice!  anyway, to answer your question someone, it could be that this person does just sorta like the girl.  well, what does that mean?  1)they may like her a little bit, and just dont know her all that well to say that they really really like her.  2) they are too afraid to say if they like the person.  3) they don't want to say that they fully blown out like her because she may then expect something from them (i.e. wanting to hook up, treating her differently/a certain way, etc.) 4) they just are not sure of their feelings at the exact moment/still trying to figure out how they feel.  Hope that helps you out someone!

Response from Russian Tank:

Someone,
This may be a response that indicates that he does like her, doesnt like her, just doesnt want to tell you, finds the person interesting, or he really hasnt made up his mind yet. Ask the person again after a few weeks has passed, or get to know the person a little better.  This may allow the other person to feel more comfortable talking with you about this subject.

If a girl is interested in a guy, and she showed some signs that she is interested should she pursue it, or let the guy initiate?

-CT

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Response from GS:

CT,
If you have already showed signs that you are interested, then I think you should let the guy initiate the rest. It would encourage him to be assertive, since guys are sometimes shy when it comes to females. Also, for me, since I am a female, I would like the guy to initiate something first. When a guy initiates the relationship, it shows that can take charge. I think it is an attractive quality in guys in general. If you are dropping obvious hints to him that you are interested, and he is not reciprocating anything back, or initiating a DTR, then he could be 1)too shy/scared, 2)not interested, 3)not ready to be in a serious relationship. You want a guy who can be assertive and be a leader in the relationship, but make sure hes not going to be DOMINATING the relationship. That's just a no-no.

Response from Russian Tank:

CT,
Personally, I believe that the guy should initiate the relationship. If a guy and a girl are interested in one another, most often, they will pick up on that through each others body language, eye contact, and style of communication between the two.  There shouldnt really be a need for the girl to "chase" the guy if they are both attracted to each other because if everything is "right" the guy should already be thinking about whether or not to pursue anything.  However, sometimes when a guy is shy, a girl may have to make her intentions a little bit more obvious than normal giving the shy guy a little less chance of feeling he will be rejected.  Of course, this will have to be done reasonably.  If the guy is really interested and has enough interest in you to take that initiative, then he will most likely do so.  If not, it could mean that he may not be as interested, the timing is not right, or he just doesnt really care to be in a relationship...all of which would be detrimental to the relationship if you were both to get together. Be strong, and show him that you are worthy of being pursued. A womans dignity, by far, is one of the most attractive features she will ever posses, dont throw that away.

My siamese twin sister has fallen in luv with my boyfriend, and he can't seem to tell the difference between us! he now calls us the LEFT and the RIGHT! what do i do? i think i should get first dibs! i came out first anyway! let me type now! it doesnt matter who came out first! im the more gOOd looking one ... he luvs me! we're gonna get married and she'll have to live with us!

-siamese twin

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Response from GS:

Siamese Twin,
If your siamese sister really cares about you, then she would consider what she is doing to you by dating your EX boyfriend. I think you and her should talk it out. If they are really truly in love with each other and are soul mates, then maybe you need to learn to deal and accept it. Maybe there is someone else right for you. There is always the option of having surgery seperate you two, but unfortunately it is a very risky procedure and one of you could die. But really, consider each others feelings and talk it out...

Response from Russian Tank:

Siamese Twin,
There are medical procedures that will separate the both of you.  However, that may mean that you will only have one half of a body and if things dont go too well, you very well may die.  If your boyfriend surely loves you and can do with only half of your body present, go for the procedure, but if you are afraid of the deathly grim chances of you dying and choose to stay together, theres only a few choices left for you, communication, compromise, and acceptance.

If you communicate, compromise, and accept the circumstances you are in with your partner, your boyfriend, and yourself, you may eventually come to terms with your "conflict."  If you dont, you might end up in a state of frustration, anger, and unhappiness your whole life.

I have this thing for GS, but she doesn't seem to know i exist. how do i win her heart?

-Secret Admirer

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Response from GS:

Secret Admirer,
well. Now I know you exist.

Response from Russian Tank:

Secret Admirer,
Get a job, buy me lots and lots of bibles to give to people and ill put in a good word for you.

If a girl puts her head on a guy's shoulder to rest it (say she's really really tired), does that most likely mean that something's going on between them?  note: i'm not the guy above, but i like the girl and she knows i like her - is it more likely that she's playing games with me? or could something be going on AND could she be playing games with me?

-Anonymous

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Response from GS:

Anonymous,
Good question. The girl you talk about could be playing games, OR she could also have true, genuine feelings for you. It's hard to tell a person's feelings ONLY by their actions. A lot of times how a person feels comes out through their actions, but if she is playing games with you, her actions may tell you she is attracted to you and may want to pursue something with you, when in fact, she is only playing a game. I think it is possible that she could like you AND be playing a game with you... because if she likes you, she is trying to "win" you, or make you like her back, or maybe even be playing hard to get. It's all about the chase, and that in itself is a game. All in all, remember to guard your heart so you don't get hurt. I think it is safe to assume that she does not like you until it is expressed in her words, not JUST her actions.

Response from Russian Tank:

Anonymous,
Well, this is a tough question.  One has to look at the whole girl and the surrounding circumstances for one to understand whether or not she is playing games.  Usually, a girl who is higher maintenance and knows she can get guys, will play games.  If the girl is more of a low maintenance, humble type, she just may not know what shes doing.

There could be several possibilities under this circumstance. 

1. If the girl is attracted to you, is tired, and is in the "moment," the girl may let her inhibitions down, and show you some affection.

2. If the girl is wanting attention and wants you to reciprocate.

3. If the girl just has NO CLUE what shes doing in terms of who or what she wants (meaning, actually knowing what she wants and then applying that knowledge towards specific actions), then she may also exhibit those actions out of emotional spontaneity.

4. The girl is a player and wants attention despite the repercussions of her actions.

5. The girl just wants to have some fun and satisfy her "challenge" requirement (can I get this guy?).

But to answer your question, yes she could be playing games.  There could be "something," and she could both be playing games when there is something going on between you two. My suggestion is to back away until you can be sure she knows what she wants, her intentions are clear, and you guys understand that you have a solid attraction for each other and want to pursue a relationship.  To do otherwise would cause problems.